Grow your confidence with Magdalena Reliszka

Self-confidence is the belief that you can handle something. What can build this belief?

Positive experiences

If you do something several times and the results are satisfactory, you build the belief that you can do it, that you can also handle it next time. If someone (whose opinion is important to you) appreciates what you did and how you did it, they strengthen your self-confidence in this area. After such positive experiences, it is easier to take on new tasks. Also, it is important that the more positive experiences we build self-confidence, the easier it is for us to get used to the fact that sometimes things don't work out. Then a small setback doesn't disturb the belief that we can do it.

Exercise: Write down your achievements - see how many things are going your way and what you can repeat with a little effort to achieve even more successes

Strengths - tools that never fail

If you focus on what works for you, you can take a moment to reflect and answer the question: Why does it work for me? Your strengths will show you what kind of person you are. They will help you understand yourself better, get to know yourself better. And that is a step towards self-acceptance. And if you know what you are good at, you can consciously look for situations in which you will use your strengths, like tools.

Exercise: Make a list of your strengths

Practicing what works and developing those skills also increases confidence

Self-improvement, when focused on what I can do, what comes easily to me, gives amazing results: We build strong strengths and become even better at what we can do, and that helps build the belief that I can do it and can use it effectively. However, work on hard skills, increasing professional skills, or on soft skills must be done regularly. It is worth planning it, dividing it into fragments and spreading it over time, or knowing your needs, adapting it to yourself. It is an effort that is pleasant (after all, we are developing in an area where we are already good), but only regular, will give measurable results for building self-confidence.

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Systematically facing weaknesses, increasing competencies

If you see that something is limiting your development, the lack of a skill is blocking you from taking on tasks that are interesting to you, then it is a sign to work on your weaker side. For example, when you want to implement a better solution to a problem at work during a group discussion, but when you want to speak up and propose your solution, emotions don't allow you to speak out, you won't have the opportunity to use your skills and show yourself and others that you can do it. In such a situation, it is worth working on speaking in a group (informal public speaking). As you notice what your weakness is, you will definitely come up with a few ways to strengthen this side of yourself. But, what I think is most important - not everything at once.

Exercise: Set yourself one thing you want to improve, find or develop one exercise that will help you achieve it, and systematically strive to improve the situation. For example, in controlling emotions before speaking to a group, breathing exercises can help, which, when well-learned, will calm the breath before speaking and help control nerves and voice even during :)

Faith in your own strength and perseverance

Of course, the hardest part is to start. You have to do something to convince yourself whether it will work or not. Because how else would we make sure that something is our strength and something else our weakness? So we will need faith in our own strength. Affirmations and visualizations are effective, but when we need courage right away, it can be increased by good preparation for the task.

The certainty that I did everything I could to prepare for the task always increases my faith in my own strength. Analyzing the situation, predicting what could happen, what challenges are associated with the task and what I have the opportunity to do, also give more chances of success, and then it is easier to believe in yourself.

Exercise: Think about what increases your faith in your own strength, write it down and use it.

And don't give up even if it didn't work out this time. If you want to learn to walk, you don't give up after the first stumble, right? (otherwise we would all still be crawling ;))

Constructive opinion of those people whose opinion we value and whose opinion is important to us

To build strong self-confidence, the kind that won't waver in the face of new challenges or small and large setbacks, it's important to strengthen it. It's like building a structure out of stones. You put one stone on top of another and make sure they are stable, or they will wobble in the wind or in ground tremors. Regularly check your self-confidence structure, set yourself challenges to build it strong and strong. One of the challenges can be seeking (or sometimes just listening, reading) opinions from others. Nothing shakes our conviction like a well-aimed remark about our weakness :) However, a strong, confident person does not care about the opinions of strangers, malicious people, or simply laypeople in the field. So ask yourself for the opinion (feedback) of those whose opinion you want to know. But, what is important, ask for the opinion of people whose opinion is important to you: experts in the field in which you are moving or developing, people who have good intentions and are attentive observers. Whose opinion will help you grow even more and strengthen your self-confidence.

Exercise: Put your confidence to the test: After completing a task (at work, school, or home), ask the person for whom you completed the task, for example, what you did well and what you could do better.

In conclusion, faith in yourself and self-acceptance, gathering experiences based on strengths, increasing competencies, and systematically facing weaknesses will help you significantly increase your confidence.

What builds your self-confidence